Category: Motivation

Because I’m HAPPY!

 

I have been thinking about what happiness really means for quite some time.  Was it to have enough money?  Was it to work in a job that you truly enjoy doing?  Was it finding the right partner?  Was it being healthy?  It was NONE of these things!

Happiness is to be positive, to be humble, kind, forgiving and grateful.  Happiness is to give, and not to receive.

You see, happiness is not something that you can buy with money.  Happiness is what you make of the challenges life presents.  For the first time in many years, I am starting to feel what it is like to be happy again, and although this did not come entirely from within myself, it was a conscious decision.

Can other people make you happy?  Yes and no.  Let me start with the “no” part: If you are not happy with and within yourself, nothing will make you happy.  Now let’s look at the “yes” part.  Other people can’t make you happy per se, but, they can influence your decision to be happy.  You see, positive and happy people are contagious, so if you are already working on your happiness, all it takes is one happy person to be that catalyst and you can unlock your happiness from within.

I recently met a happy person.  A person who is at peace with themselves, the decisions and even mistakes they made in the past, and generally has a positive and can-do attitude towards everything they do.  It’s a person that is funny, positive and who appreciates what they have.  I have been looking for such a person because they are few and far between, but now that I found this person, they brought out the happiness in me too.

You can also be happy.  Everyone can!  Make the decision, think positive thoughts, and go out and look for people that are truly happy.  You can spot them a mile away!  Associate yourself with them, spend time with them, and get to know them.

Being specific and my view on mediocrity

Being specific and my view on mediocrity

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The things in my past which I regret the most, were things I did without really being passionate about doing, which led to a mediocre attempt at best.

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The thing that gets me the most irritated with people in all aspects of daily life is mediocrity – the mediocre attitude towards customer service, the mediocre attitude towards doing your job, the mediocre attitude of relationships (both platonic friendships and more romantic ones).

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In my quest to find my dream job, I refuse to be mediocre!   I am specific about which jobs I apply for, not because I think I am better than anyone else, or discriminate against people who are willing to do certain jobs, but because I only apply for jobs that I know I will not be mediocre at.  I apply for positions which I know I can do (and do well), ones I will be good at, ones that I have a real interest in, and ones that I know I will always do my best.  That does not mean I know the in’s and out’s of every specific job, but I know something about it, and can learn the rest.

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It’s a choice, after all, to do your best, to set your personal standards, and to not be mediocre.

Why so much details?

You might ask why I went into so much detail telling the story of my two trips.  Well, I actually already answered the question, as I alluded to the fact of what impact the entire Disney experience has had on me.

 

However, it is more than just the impact it had on me.  As mentioned in a previous post, each time I experienced Disney (and especially Disney Cruise Line), a little piece of me remained behind on the ship when I returned back home.

It was during the launch, trans-Atlantic cruise and christening of the Disney Fantasy, that the penny dropped with me that I wanted to be part of the Magic of Disney.

Your next question may be: “Why only now”?

I can think up several excuses which I used both in the past and now, but I came to realise that at some point I had to do something pro-active to make my dreams come true.  I think in a way, seeing how (relatively) easy it was for my partner (now ex partner) to get a job with DCL, made me realise that I too can achieve that dream.  In a sense, I thought it was out of my reach previously, but I believe wholeheartedly that this is a dream that can, and will, come true for me.  I have never been so determined, passionate and set on making something that I really want to come true, and I am taking proactive steps to make it happen, not just sitting back and waiting for it to come my way.

It hasn’t been an easy task so far, as I have been turned down several times already, but I am determined to keep on applying for available positions, as I know there is a position waiting for me there, at the right time, and at the right place, when it is meant to be.

One day, I will be reunited with the part of me that stayed behind at Disney Cruise Line.

Running…

I have never been a big fan of road running.  My father used to do it A LOT and it has just never been something that interested me.

In an effort to lose weight and get fitter, I started going to the gym again about a year ago, and strangely, the exercise that I enjoy the most is treadmill running!

Last night I realised that all this time, I had been running away from things.  I have been running away from things all my life.  Running from my past.  Running from my failed relationships. Running from my poor state of finances.

On Saturday evening, I watched a movie called The Founder, recommended to me by my cousin.  Without giving the story away, it’s about how McDonalds started, and the story behind how it went global.  I learned a few lessons from the movie, one of which is that persistence trumps everything else in order to succeed.

I have been disappointed that the last two months of regular and hard gymming, had not resulted in major weight loss, but what I have realised is that I am becoming fitter.  My resting heart rate has dropped from 75 to 62.  I also checked my blood pressure, and that has come down to normal levels without medication.  The persistence in working out has paid off: perhaps not exactly in the ways I wanted it to, but in other ways, and probably better ways!

Last night, while achieving my 5km personal best run, I realised that I was no longer running away from things, but running towards better things.  I was running towards becoming a healthier person, and I decided that I was going to start running towards the positive and good things and my future, instead of running away from the negative things and my past.

I am running towards financial freedom.  I am running towards a new career (my dream one…).  I am running towards being a success and I am running towards making a difference in this world!

The silent battle inside my head in finding my dream job…

I have this dual going on inside my head.  Or is it a dual between my heart and my head?  I don’t know, but I felt the need to write about it.

I have applied for several different positions at several different cruise lines, and at some point or another, the response is exactly the same from the recruiters: “We have other candidates who are stronger for the position.”

On the flip side, I know that each and every position I have applied for, I can do the job for the most part, and I am willing to learn the part which I am not able to do yet.

The question is, where am I failing to convince the recruiters of this?  I know what my capabilities are, I know that I am a fast learner and that I can do just about anything I put my mind to, but I also know that I do not apply for positions that I don’t know for sure I will not be successful in.  Why would I set myself up for failure?

Over the weekend, my mom saw that I was becoming disheartened by the repeated failures, and her wise words to me were: “It means the time is not right, and it is not yet meant to be.”

That gave me the encouragement and confidence to keep on going at it.  My logic says that at some point, someone will see the potential in me that I know I have – and I am not being over confident or arrogant, I know myself, and I know my capabilities better than anyone else, and I know that I would do well in the jobs I apply for.

I also remain thankful that I am not unemployed at the moment, as I can imagine that this process must be ten times worse when you are hard up for a job.

Nobody has ever achieved anything by quitting, so I intend carrying on and working at achieving this dream of mine.  I WILL  succeed!

 

The answer

I have been told by recruiters and in prospective job interviews (both recently and a few years ago) that I had too many interests listed on my CV or résumé.

It’s been a question I have been asking myself for many years, even when I was at school, as I couldn’t decide what I wanted to become one day or what career path I should take.  I think my parents would attest to this more than anyone else, as I think I have let them down a couple of times in my life, especially when I quit my university studies in my second year of Mechanical Engineering.

I was then going through some of my posts I shared on LinkedIn, and found this one which I posted a while ago, and only now did it really dawn on me that his was the answer to that question I have been struggling with for so long:

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And who other was holding the answer to my question than Walt Disney himself?

The risk with having so many interests, however, is that you become the proverbial Jack of all trades… (master of none).

I have decisions to make, on my future and on my career, and on making my dream to work for Disney Cruise Line a reality: which trade am I going to choose, and become a master in? (Or am I already a master in at least one?)…

I couldn’t wait to get home to write this!

Between last night and today I was attending a conference for our department at my current workplace.

Last night the department manager (and she will probably read this), asked me whether I was looking for an opportunity to work on ship.  I answered honestly and said that I was, but also that it is still a process in the making, and that it will probably take a couple of months at least before I will be able to make such a move.

Then at today’s conference, there was a guest speaker, and there were two points which he made which really hit a nerve with me.  I couldn’t wait to get home to write about this before I forgot most of it, but more than that: I wanted to shout it from the rooftops! Please allow me to explain:

The first point he made was that if you are in a job or position that you are not happy with, you are doing the company, your department, your customers, your managers, and especially yourself, a disservice.  This brings me to the second point he made, which is a little more complex, and I was more surprised at my own thoughts than what he was actually saying.

He asked us a couple of questions, and although my recollection might not be 100% verbatim as he said it, you’ll get the just of the matter.

I’m going to list the questions he asked, and then what my thought patterns on each of the questions were afterwards.

Question 1: Do you believe in your company’s brand?

Question 2: Do you believe that what your company sells or the products your company offers to customers is worth more in value than what the customer is paying?

Question 3: Do you believe that you are achieving your full potential in your current role at your current company?

and then, as part of a different discussion but in the same presentation, he asked another couple of questions (for the sake of the flow of this post, I’ll just continue numbering the questions).

Question 4: Is your company contributing to your success?

Question 5: Is your manager contributing to your success?

Question 6: Are your colleagues contributing to your success?

Question 7: How big a part of your success are YOU responsible for?

Now for the answers.

The presenter highlighted that we should answer for our current position and company.

Answer 1: Yes, mostly.

Answer 2: Not always.

Answer 3: Although I am extremely passionate about what I do, the answer is no.

Answer 4, 5 and 6: To a small extent, which was what everyone in the room, including myself, agreed on.

Answer 7: A HUGE resounding “the biggest part of it, in excess of 90%”.

The problem was, and this was the part that surprised me, was that I was not only answering these questions for my current company, position, role or job, but I couldn’t help putting myself in the shoes of when I will be working for Disney Cruise Line, and what my answers would be then.  The answers to questions 4, 5, 6 and 7 remained the same.  These were my answers on question 1, 2 and 3:

Answer 1: YES!  Without a doubt!

Answer 2: YES! Without a doubt!

Answer 3: I know that I will.  All I need is for a decision maker to give me that foot in the door, that opportunity, to see just how serious and passionate I am to work for DCL and how much I can and will make a success of it!

That said, there are things I need to do, things I need to get in place, and things I need to sort out, to make this happen.  Many of these things I have been putting off and procrastinating on.  I am now, more than ever, motivated and determined to do what I need to do to get my life in order, to align everything, to make this dream of mine a reality.

One last thing: The presenter ended off by holding a piece of paper in the air with just two fingers, and told the entire audience to imagine that the piece of paper will tear in half, just by the collective power of our minds.  Needless to say, it didn’t happen.  He then took the piece of paper in both his hands, and ripped it in half.  The point he made was that no dream will come true, unless you take action.  He took the action of tearing the paper.  I am taking the action to get my things in order, to make my dream of working for Disney Cruise Line, come true!