Category: Motivation

The power of positivity

It’s amazing how much influence the positivity of others can have on your life, if you allow it to.

Let me explain:  As I have alluded to in some of my other posts, I met someone a while ago who has, and is still having, a major impact on my life, on several different levels.  One impact that this person is having is the manner in which he always has a “can do” attitude, always aspiring to doing better and more, and always doing so in a positive (and sometimes candid) manner.

I admire this person for how hard he works, and just this morning, he told me that he wants to do even better.  Sometimes I wonder where he gets the energy and drive from, and I am yet to learn what his goals and inspirations are (although I know some already).

His actions and outlook on life inspires me to also do more, to also drive each day to achieve my goals, and to be positive and alive each day!

You know who you are that I am talking about, and I know that you read my blog.  Thank you for the inspiration that you are to me, and I hope that other people not only finds that inspiration in you, but that they will also see it in me, and that I may be an inspiration to others to do better, to do good to themselves and to others, and always push to be their best.

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Will this be my “Big Break”?

Over the last several months, I have been applying for jobs in the cruise industry left, right and center.  I have had several interviews, can complete an online application with my eyes closed and have several copies of my cover letter and résumé, customised for each cruise line and position that I have applied for.

None have been successful.

As I mentioned in a previous post, each and every position that I have applied for was a position where I felt I could make a success of it with my current knowledge, background and experience.  In fact, I know that I would make a success of each and every one of them, given the chance to prove myself.

The standard reply on each of them were: “We have stronger candidates who meet the requirements of the position better and you are no longer considered at this time.” – or something to this effect.

To say it is discouraging is an understatement of note.  It takes strong discipline, motivation and sometimes madness to keep on going and not give up.  I haven’t given up!

I recently customised my documentation for yet another angle to take on getting a foot in the door in the cruise industry.  This time, I focused on the things I have solid experience in, through the employer I have been with for the last 11 years.  I was fortunate to have it sent to the relevant people directly, and they thought my résumé good enough to at least have an initial telephonic “meet and greet” – the first interview of what I would imagine be a couple at least to follow.

Will this be my “big break” that I have been praying, asking and begging for someone to give to me?  Do we absolutely have to rely on someone giving you that big break?  Why do we find it so difficult to get somewhere in life without someone giving you that opportunity?  Surely my track record, experience, attitude and values should be enough to make my dream come true without having to rely on that?  How do we make recruiters, interviewers and potential new managers understand what our competencies are and that we are suitable for the position – in fact, not only suitable for the position, but to stand out in the crowd of sometimes thousands of applicants, and convince them that we are the best candidate for the position?

There are two schools of thought here:  The first is the almost cliché “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.”  The second is that you determine your own destiny, and that you cannot rely on other people to make it happen for you.

I believe that being successful calls for both, at various times in your life.  Sometimes you have to rely on someone else to give you that chance, and sometimes you have to outright ask for it.  The key is that you need to make them understand that, in other words, you determine what they think of you, that they understand you are the best candidate for the job, and that you will be successful.  As the person applying for the new job, you are ultimately the one determining your own destiny.

How do we bridge this gap, and make that happen?  Confidence without being arrogant, doing your research about the requirements of the job, good communication, good first impressions, be honest, be friendly, smile.  These are all examples of advice that you will find when you read articles about how to get the job.  But they do not answer that question, how do you convince the recruiter/interviewer that you are their perfect candidate, and convince them to give you that chance to prove yourself?

I haven’t found the answer yet.  If you have, and you are willing to share it with me and the people who read my blog, please leave your comment below.

Because I’m HAPPY!

 

I have been thinking about what happiness really means for quite some time.  Was it to have enough money?  Was it to work in a job that you truly enjoy doing?  Was it finding the right partner?  Was it being healthy?  It was NONE of these things!

Happiness is to be positive, to be humble, kind, forgiving and grateful.  Happiness is to give, and not to receive.

You see, happiness is not something that you can buy with money.  Happiness is what you make of the challenges life presents.  For the first time in many years, I am starting to feel what it is like to be happy again, and although this did not come entirely from within myself, it was a conscious decision.

Can other people make you happy?  Yes and no.  Let me start with the “no” part: If you are not happy with and within yourself, nothing will make you happy.  Now let’s look at the “yes” part.  Other people can’t make you happy per se, but, they can influence your decision to be happy.  You see, positive and happy people are contagious, so if you are already working on your happiness, all it takes is one happy person to be that catalyst and you can unlock your happiness from within.

I recently met a happy person.  A person who is at peace with themselves, the decisions and even mistakes they made in the past, and generally has a positive and can-do attitude towards everything they do.  It’s a person that is funny, positive and who appreciates what they have.  I have been looking for such a person because they are few and far between, but now that I found this person, they brought out the happiness in me too.

You can also be happy.  Everyone can!  Make the decision, think positive thoughts, and go out and look for people that are truly happy.  You can spot them a mile away!  Associate yourself with them, spend time with them, and get to know them.

Being specific and my view on mediocrity

Being specific and my view on mediocrity

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The things in my past which I regret the most, were things I did without really being passionate about doing, which led to a mediocre attempt at best.

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The thing that gets me the most irritated with people in all aspects of daily life is mediocrity – the mediocre attitude towards customer service, the mediocre attitude towards doing your job, the mediocre attitude of relationships (both platonic friendships and more romantic ones).

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In my quest to find my dream job, I refuse to be mediocre!   I am specific about which jobs I apply for, not because I think I am better than anyone else, or discriminate against people who are willing to do certain jobs, but because I only apply for jobs that I know I will not be mediocre at.  I apply for positions which I know I can do (and do well), ones I will be good at, ones that I have a real interest in, and ones that I know I will always do my best.  That does not mean I know the in’s and out’s of every specific job, but I know something about it, and can learn the rest.

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It’s a choice, after all, to do your best, to set your personal standards, and to not be mediocre.

Why so much details?

You might ask why I went into so much detail telling the story of my two trips.  Well, I actually already answered the question, as I alluded to the fact of what impact the entire Disney experience has had on me.

 

However, it is more than just the impact it had on me.  As mentioned in a previous post, each time I experienced Disney (and especially Disney Cruise Line), a little piece of me remained behind on the ship when I returned back home.

It was during the launch, trans-Atlantic cruise and christening of the Disney Fantasy, that the penny dropped with me that I wanted to be part of the Magic of Disney.

Your next question may be: “Why only now”?

I can think up several excuses which I used both in the past and now, but I came to realise that at some point I had to do something pro-active to make my dreams come true.  I think in a way, seeing how (relatively) easy it was for my partner (now ex partner) to get a job with DCL, made me realise that I too can achieve that dream.  In a sense, I thought it was out of my reach previously, but I believe wholeheartedly that this is a dream that can, and will, come true for me.  I have never been so determined, passionate and set on making something that I really want to come true, and I am taking proactive steps to make it happen, not just sitting back and waiting for it to come my way.

It hasn’t been an easy task so far, as I have been turned down several times already, but I am determined to keep on applying for available positions, as I know there is a position waiting for me there, at the right time, and at the right place, when it is meant to be.

One day, I will be reunited with the part of me that stayed behind at Disney Cruise Line.

Running…

I have never been a big fan of road running.  My father used to do it A LOT and it has just never been something that interested me.

In an effort to lose weight and get fitter, I started going to the gym again about a year ago, and strangely, the exercise that I enjoy the most is treadmill running!

Last night I realised that all this time, I had been running away from things.  I have been running away from things all my life.  Running from my past.  Running from my failed relationships. Running from my poor state of finances.

On Saturday evening, I watched a movie called The Founder, recommended to me by my cousin.  Without giving the story away, it’s about how McDonalds started, and the story behind how it went global.  I learned a few lessons from the movie, one of which is that persistence trumps everything else in order to succeed.

I have been disappointed that the last two months of regular and hard gymming, had not resulted in major weight loss, but what I have realised is that I am becoming fitter.  My resting heart rate has dropped from 75 to 62.  I also checked my blood pressure, and that has come down to normal levels without medication.  The persistence in working out has paid off: perhaps not exactly in the ways I wanted it to, but in other ways, and probably better ways!

Last night, while achieving my 5km personal best run, I realised that I was no longer running away from things, but running towards better things.  I was running towards becoming a healthier person, and I decided that I was going to start running towards the positive and good things and my future, instead of running away from the negative things and my past.

I am running towards financial freedom.  I am running towards a new career (my dream one…).  I am running towards being a success and I am running towards making a difference in this world!

The silent battle inside my head in finding my dream job…

I have this dual going on inside my head.  Or is it a dual between my heart and my head?  I don’t know, but I felt the need to write about it.

I have applied for several different positions at several different cruise lines, and at some point or another, the response is exactly the same from the recruiters: “We have other candidates who are stronger for the position.”

On the flip side, I know that each and every position I have applied for, I can do the job for the most part, and I am willing to learn the part which I am not able to do yet.

The question is, where am I failing to convince the recruiters of this?  I know what my capabilities are, I know that I am a fast learner and that I can do just about anything I put my mind to, but I also know that I do not apply for positions that I don’t know for sure I will not be successful in.  Why would I set myself up for failure?

Over the weekend, my mom saw that I was becoming disheartened by the repeated failures, and her wise words to me were: “It means the time is not right, and it is not yet meant to be.”

That gave me the encouragement and confidence to keep on going at it.  My logic says that at some point, someone will see the potential in me that I know I have – and I am not being over confident or arrogant, I know myself, and I know my capabilities better than anyone else, and I know that I would do well in the jobs I apply for.

I also remain thankful that I am not unemployed at the moment, as I can imagine that this process must be ten times worse when you are hard up for a job.

Nobody has ever achieved anything by quitting, so I intend carrying on and working at achieving this dream of mine.  I WILL  succeed!