Tag: Journey

Past, Future, Present

There’s something to be said about the past, the future and the present.  In all instances, something to remember, and something to let go of.  This is the realisation I came to recently…

The Past

To say that I have made my fair share of mistakes in the past might be an understatement.  Would I change anything in my past?  Wouldn’t we all, but, would I be the same person today if I could change my past?  Probably not…

And therein lies the good and the bad:  We must learn the life lessons from our past experiences, but let go of the things that hurt us, the people that did us wrong, and the wrong decisions we made.  A lot of it boils down to forgiveness – forgiveness of the self and others.

Hold on to the experiences, the things you learnt, and the memories you made.  Let go of anything that doesn’t add value to your life today.

The Future

When considering the future, it is important to have something to work towards – a goal, a dream, something that you’ve always wanted to achieve.  On the contrary, one shouldn’t be too obsessed about the future either, as it can easily become something you so badly want, that you actually lose focus of how to achieve it.  Sounds contradictory, but from recent personal experience, I can honestly say that it is true.  There’s a difference between having future goals, and being so obsessed about it that you forget living, which brings me to the present…

The Present

You see, the present is the only thing that is “real”.  The “now” is the only form of reality where our decisions and actions have an immediate impact, and can be felt, tasted, heard or seen.  We tend to either get SO stuck in the past, or dream of the future, that we forget to live in the moment, and thereby forget to truly live!  It’s a human thing, we all do it, at least from time to time.

Allow me to put it into a personal perspective:

For years I have been carrying past hurts with me, from as far back as my childhood and school days, to even more recent, in failed relationships, school teachers, friends, colleagues, bosses, people I randomly met, and even as far as decisions I made myself.  Some of these past experiences were great, and others not so.  I kept catching myself thinking about things that happened in the past, and wondering how life would be different if some of them didn’t happen, or happened differently.

I have also been obsessed about the future, especially in terms of romantic relationships, wondering if and when i will ever end up with someone special.  I have been so focused and obsessed about this, that I forgot to be myself in the here and now, which actually prevented me from meeting new people altogether.  See how this is counterproductive in actually achieving your future goals?

Does that mean I no longer dream or have goals for the future? ABSOLUTELY not!  My dream is still to work for Disney, and it will come, however, I have to prepare and live now, to make sure that when that time comes (and it can at any time now), I am as ready to make a huge success of it as I can be.  Thinking about it now, a few months back, I was not as prepared and ready for this adventure as I am now, and there are still tings I can improve on (i.e. finances, obligations in my home country, etc.).

So I am making a conscious decision to live each day in the present, in the here and now and in reality, by using the lessons I have learned from the past, and with my future goals and dreams in mind.  Actually, REALLY, LIVING for a change!


New year, refreshed focus – a quick update

Hi everyone!

I haven’t posted anything in quite some time, as there hasn’t really been much to report on.

I do want to wish all my followers a prosperous new year, and hope that you all had a blessed and safe holiday season.

I am not a person who makes new year’s resolutions, as I believe we should strive to improve, renew and build each and every day.  It being a new year, however, sort of solicits one to just take stock of where you are, and where you would like to be – to re-evaluate your current circumstances and make the necessary changes to achieve your goals.

So for now, all I can say is that I have refreshed my focus on what my goals are, and believe that this year is going to ultimately be the year in which big changes, towards achieving those goals, will take place – to finally become an employee of Disney Cruise Line, and literally live the dream I have been dreaming for so long.

I still have so many people inspiring and supporting me each and every day – there is almost not a day that someone doesn’t ask me what the progress is, whether I have any further news or encouraging me to believe that it will happen when the time is right.  To each and every one of you, thank you!  (I do not want to even start mentioning specific people, as I know I will leave out someone along the line.)

I will keep updating you as there are any new developments.

Until next time, keep smiling! 🙂

And now a giant leap!

After submitting my references, and they all responding quickly, a decision was to be made whether to place me on the “bench” for employment with Disney Cruise Line.

My dream of working for DCL is getting closer and closer to being fulfilled, and I am over the moon!

This week I was informed that I had been accepted, and placed on the bench.  That means that there is not a position immediately available for the the job I applied for, but, that I have been placed in the queue of employable candidates when a position arises.  This is a giant leap in the right direction of having my dream come true.

The process of being placed can take anything from a couple of months to over a year, so I am patiently waiting now.  As always, I will keep updating this blog when there is any further news.

In the meantime, I am starting to get things in order to be prepared to go when the time comes.  I have many things to consider, and have to make some important and difficult decisions around my finances, my home, my pets and my belongings.

My ex will also be back within the next week, which will give an opportunity to make things less complicated on that front as well, all in preparation for my getting ready to make my dream come true.

I cannot wait for the day that I set foot on one of the beautiful Disney Cruise Line ships, and start my career with such an amazing company.  If the recruitment process so far has been any indication on how DCL operates, it will be the most exciting and rewarding career move I have ever made.  I cannot wait for the day to be called a Disney Cruise Line Crew Member!

On a more personal note, I have had to make some more important decisions around friends and romance.  There is someone who has crept deep into my heart, however, the circumstances that we find the both of ourselves in simply don’t allow us to be together at this time.  Who knows what the long term future might have in store though…

Another step in the right direction and a movie review

Hi to all my followers and readers of this blog.  I haven’t posted in a while, as there hasn’t been much to report on lately, however, there has now been some recent developments and another step closer to making my dream come true – To work for Disney Cruise Line (for those if you who don’t know that yet).

After three successful telephone and/or video interviews, I was asked to provide professional references.  This was a new step in the process for me, as my ex partner didn’t have to go through this step when he applied to work for DCL two years ago.

It didn’t bother me in the least though, and I provided six professional references as soon as I was able to.  Two of the six were references from previous employment, and I doubted whether I was going to get a response from them.  My doubts were confirmed, and I had to replace them with more suitable references through the week.

If any of the people who provided me with references read this, this is a big shout-out to you, and a massive thank you, for providing your responses so quickly!

I now await an answer on whether they are satisfied with the references provided, although the recruiter did say that my reference report looked great.  That gives me some sense of confidence, however, i am careful to be over-confident as I don’t want to appear arrogant, which i definitely am not.

On another note, I visited my mom for dinner last night for the first time in quite some time, and really enjoyed spending some time with her.  Usually it’s just an eat-and-run, but I purposefully stayed a little longer last night, and we really had some quality time together.  I love you mom!

For reasons I am not able to publicly divulge, I just couldn’t stand to be home alone last night, and after I left my mom’s place, I went to go watch a movie (alone), and I actually enjoyed it tremendously – not only because it was an excellent movie, but I had some time for (and with) myself, and really used the time to switch off from everyday life and really just relax and enjoy the movie.

I watched Kingsman – The Golden Circle, in which Taron Egerton and Channing Tatum plays.  It was so good to watch an action comedy, with a big star name like Channing Tatum, and see that he didn’t play the main role.  (You can view the trailer here )

I enjoyed the movie tremendously because it had a fantastic story line, the actors/actresses were all excellent in their respective roles, and the fine humor was hilarious!

Apart from just being very nice to look at, Taron Egerton is also a fantastic actor.  His general demeanor, fine humor and radiating confidence in the finely tailored suits of Kingsman, reminds me so much of someone that has recently crept very deep into my heart.

The story is well written, albeit a little predictable, and I was really able to switch off and focus on the movie for the entire duration.

I was one of only three guys in the cinema last night, and on numerous occasions the three of us were all laughing loudly at some of the most incredibly funny scenes, which fit in well with the rest of the story.

I have watched several movies over the last couple of months, and although many of them were great, I haven’t enjoyed a movie this much in a long time.  It really was worth the time and effort to go watch, and I succeeded well in my mission to get out of the house and relax, and switch off from life for just over two hours.


It all went well, and I’m holding thumbs

Last week I had my third interview with Disney Cruise Line for a position I applied for.  There were certain things that counted in my favor, and others perhaps not so much, but overall I think this position suits me very well, and i will be able to make a huge success of it.  I have a good feeling about this one!

The manager with whom I had the interview was kind and very straight forward and open.  You see, that is what I have loved through each recruitment process I have gone through with DCL: You always have a good idea of where you stand, what their expectations are and what opportunities there are for you.

If the recruitment process is this well organised, I cannot wait to be a part of the company as a crew member and experience what working for Disney must truly be like.

For now I am still waiting for a decision to be made, as there is a team of people who will make the call.  I should know within a week or two whether I have made the giant leap into my dream career, working for the dream company!

Another step forward to reaching my dream

People say it’s not how fast you get there, all that matters is that you keep moving forward, one step at a time.

In making my dream to work for DCL come true, I have taken another positive step forward.  I have been through two rounds of interviews, and the next big one is this week.  If I understand the process correctly, this will be the deciding one.

I am nervous, but the good kind of nervous.  I am confident that I meet the requirements of the job, and that I am a suitable person to work in the industry.  This is make or break week!

I think the time is right now as well.  Although there is a possibility of romance in my life, which there hasn’t been before, he understands that this is my dream, and his situation doesn’t allow us to be together now either.  In terms of my finances I am at a better place now as well, and I even have the prospect of people who would like to rent or even buy my house when I go work overseas.

My ex and I have agreed that he would be moving his things out the house when he is back in November, so one less thing to worry about.

There are still a couple of loose ends I need to get tied up before being completely ready to go, but I think all of that can be done well ahead of time.  After all, I am not sure that I have the job just yet, but things are falling in to place to be ready.

Once I know the outcome after this week’s interview, I will update my blog again, so it might be a couple of days.  When successful, I would probably still have to wait several months and go through a whole other process before I can go, including a full medical, police clearance etc.

Will keep you updated!

Because I’m HAPPY!


I have been thinking about what happiness really means for quite some time.  Was it to have enough money?  Was it to work in a job that you truly enjoy doing?  Was it finding the right partner?  Was it being healthy?  It was NONE of these things!

Happiness is to be positive, to be humble, kind, forgiving and grateful.  Happiness is to give, and not to receive.

You see, happiness is not something that you can buy with money.  Happiness is what you make of the challenges life presents.  For the first time in many years, I am starting to feel what it is like to be happy again, and although this did not come entirely from within myself, it was a conscious decision.

Can other people make you happy?  Yes and no.  Let me start with the “no” part: If you are not happy with and within yourself, nothing will make you happy.  Now let’s look at the “yes” part.  Other people can’t make you happy per se, but, they can influence your decision to be happy.  You see, positive and happy people are contagious, so if you are already working on your happiness, all it takes is one happy person to be that catalyst and you can unlock your happiness from within.

I recently met a happy person.  A person who is at peace with themselves, the decisions and even mistakes they made in the past, and generally has a positive and can-do attitude towards everything they do.  It’s a person that is funny, positive and who appreciates what they have.  I have been looking for such a person because they are few and far between, but now that I found this person, they brought out the happiness in me too.

You can also be happy.  Everyone can!  Make the decision, think positive thoughts, and go out and look for people that are truly happy.  You can spot them a mile away!  Associate yourself with them, spend time with them, and get to know them.

Why so much details?

You might ask why I went into so much detail telling the story of my two trips.  Well, I actually already answered the question, as I alluded to the fact of what impact the entire Disney experience has had on me.


However, it is more than just the impact it had on me.  As mentioned in a previous post, each time I experienced Disney (and especially Disney Cruise Line), a little piece of me remained behind on the ship when I returned back home.

It was during the launch, trans-Atlantic cruise and christening of the Disney Fantasy, that the penny dropped with me that I wanted to be part of the Magic of Disney.

Your next question may be: “Why only now”?

I can think up several excuses which I used both in the past and now, but I came to realise that at some point I had to do something pro-active to make my dreams come true.  I think in a way, seeing how (relatively) easy it was for my partner (now ex partner) to get a job with DCL, made me realise that I too can achieve that dream.  In a sense, I thought it was out of my reach previously, but I believe wholeheartedly that this is a dream that can, and will, come true for me.  I have never been so determined, passionate and set on making something that I really want to come true, and I am taking proactive steps to make it happen, not just sitting back and waiting for it to come my way.

It hasn’t been an easy task so far, as I have been turned down several times already, but I am determined to keep on applying for available positions, as I know there is a position waiting for me there, at the right time, and at the right place, when it is meant to be.

One day, I will be reunited with the part of me that stayed behind at Disney Cruise Line.

My second overseas trip (last part)

My friend and I departed for Atlanta the next day, where we stayed with my friend’s cousin for a few days (I can’t remember how long exactly, but it wasn’t very long).

I remember how we hid away at the back of the house that evening when our host arrived home after work, as he did not know we were there, and it was a surprise to him.  We had arranged with his wife to pick us up from the airport.  After he had entered the house, we snuck around to the front door and rang the doorbell.  The look on our host’s face when he opened the door and saw his cousin standing there all the way from South Africa was priceless!

The next day, we were taken into Atlanta town, where we bought a day pass to see the Aquarium, the Coca Cola museum and have a tour of the CNN Building.  We also spent some time looking at the various sculptures at the Centennial Olympic Park.  Really a fun day to end off our almost month long vacation before heading home.

That was the last time I was overseas, now more than 5 years ago.  With both my first and second overseas trips, I left a piece of my heart behind, and my heart has been longing to go back there again ever since.  More about that in my next post…


I have never been a big fan of road running.  My father used to do it A LOT and it has just never been something that interested me.

In an effort to lose weight and get fitter, I started going to the gym again about a year ago, and strangely, the exercise that I enjoy the most is treadmill running!

Last night I realised that all this time, I had been running away from things.  I have been running away from things all my life.  Running from my past.  Running from my failed relationships. Running from my poor state of finances.

On Saturday evening, I watched a movie called The Founder, recommended to me by my cousin.  Without giving the story away, it’s about how McDonalds started, and the story behind how it went global.  I learned a few lessons from the movie, one of which is that persistence trumps everything else in order to succeed.

I have been disappointed that the last two months of regular and hard gymming, had not resulted in major weight loss, but what I have realised is that I am becoming fitter.  My resting heart rate has dropped from 75 to 62.  I also checked my blood pressure, and that has come down to normal levels without medication.  The persistence in working out has paid off: perhaps not exactly in the ways I wanted it to, but in other ways, and probably better ways!

Last night, while achieving my 5km personal best run, I realised that I was no longer running away from things, but running towards better things.  I was running towards becoming a healthier person, and I decided that I was going to start running towards the positive and good things and my future, instead of running away from the negative things and my past.

I am running towards financial freedom.  I am running towards a new career (my dream one…).  I am running towards being a success and I am running towards making a difference in this world!